I work at the intersection of trauma, relationship, and ancestral healing — supporting people to understand the deeper patterns shaping their lives, and to create meaningful, embodied change.

I use the term Relational Ecology when speaking about my work, because I have never experienced human beings as separate from the systems they belong to.

Our inner world, our relationships, our families, our ancestry, our culture, and the land we live upon are all in constant relationship with each other.

When something is out of balance in one part of the system, it is often felt across the whole.

My work is about tending to that ecology — restoring connection, balance, and coherence within and between these layers.

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MY PATH

My path into this work began early.

At 17, I spent a year living in Japan as part of a student exchange program.

My decision to go was shaped by a desire to challenge the racism I had witnessed growing up — and to step beyond the worldview I had inherited.

A sensitivity to injustice and a desire to understand it has been a guiding thread throughout my life.

That experience opened something foundational in me.

It was the beginning of understanding how deeply culture, environment, and relationship shape our inner world — and how healing is not only personal, but relational and systemic.

I began my formal training as a healer soon after, travelling to India where I worked in leprosy colonies and orphanages.

From there, I went on to help establish an organisation supporting women and children living in the slums of Bangladesh — work I continued until I became a mother.

Living within profound poverty and human suffering at a young age changed me permanently. It confronted me with both the brutality and resilience of human life, and deepened my understanding that healing cannot be separated from the conditions people are living within.

Those experiences shaped not only my understanding of suffering, but also my understanding of human brilliance, dignity, resilience and love.

They taught me that individual pain does not arise in isolation, and that healing is rarely about simply “fixing” a person. It is about understanding the wider relational, cultural and ancestral systems that shape human lives.

At 23, I was nominated for Young Australian of the Year in recognition of this work.

Since then, I have continued to contribute across community and organisational spaces, including serving on boards of not-for-profits and receiving scholarships in social entrepreneurship.

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RELATIONSHIP AS PRACTICE

I have been in partnership with my husband for over 15 years, and together we are raising two sons.

Mothering has been one of my deepest teachers.

Through my children — and through the many children I work with — I have come to understand the profound impact of intergenerational patterns.

Even in loving and well-resourced families, children can carry and express burdens that did not begin with them.

This has deepened my commitment to working not only with individuals, but with the relational and ancestral systems that shape them.

Relationship itself has become part of my spiritual practice.

Not because it is always easy, but because it continually asks for greater honesty, humility, accountability, repair and presence.

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HOW I LIVE MY WORK

My work is not separate from how I live.

I have spent much of my life trying to understand what creates suffering in human beings — and what allows us to remain connected to ourselves, to each other, and to life itself in the midst of it.

Some of that understanding has come through formal study and years of clinical practice.

Much of it has come through living.

Through love and relationship.

Through motherhood.

Through heartbreak, responsibility, grief, community, conflict, healing, and the ongoing humbling that comes with being human.

Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu has become one of the ways I continue to meet myself honestly.

It teaches me about power, fear, boundaries, voice, pressure, surrender and presence within the body. It reminds me that strength and tenderness are not opposites.

This practice has deeply shaped how I understand relational dynamics, particularly as a woman moving through the world. My body’s growing capacity to hold both harmony and discomfort has made me a far more grounded therapist and space holder.

I live on Bundjalung Country, and a central part of my personal practice involves tending to my own ancestry so that I can show up in more conscious relationship to the land and the traditional custodians of the place I live.

I am also an active community member, including volunteering with the Save Wallum campaign working to preserve the critically endangered Wallum heathlands of Brunswick Heads.

I do not believe healing asks us to become perfect.

I believe it asks us to become more real.

More accountable.

More connected.

More capable of staying present to both the suffering and brilliance of being alive.

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MY WORK TODAY

I am a neuro-training kinesiologist and relational life practitioner, integrating:

• trauma-informed kinesiology

• relational and parts-based frameworks

• EMDR-informed processing

• nervous system regulation

• ancestral lineage repair

This work has evolved into what I call Relational Alchemy — an integrative approach that supports individuals and couples to move beyond surface-level patterns and into deeper transformation.

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HOW I SEE HEALING

I don’t see people as broken.

What I see are intelligent adaptations — patterns shaped by experience, relationship, and inheritance.

Many of these patterns are not only personal.

They are shaped by family systems, cultural conditioning, and ancestral histories that continue to live within the body and nervous system.

Healing is not about fixing yourself.

It is about understanding what has shaped you, releasing what is not yours to carry, and reclaiming the parts of yourself that have been held beneath survival, protection and adaptation.

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A LITTLE MORE PERSONALLY

I have a long-standing love affair with books — one that seems to deepen rather than resolve over time.

When I’m not working, you’ll usually find me reading, writing, in the garden, drinking tea, training, or spending time with my family and our dogs, Fenrys and Little Flower.

These simple, everyday rhythms help keep me connected to what matters most.

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THE INTENTION

At the heart of my work is a simple intention:

To support people back into a more honest, compassionate and connected relationship with themselves, with others, and with the life they are living.

Because when we change the way we relate to ourselves, we inevitably begin changing the way we relate to everything else.

THOSE WHO HAVE SHAPED ME

I would not be where I am in my own healing path without the teachers, writers, elders and practitioners who have guided me and supported me over the years.

Some have taught me through formal study, some through books and storytelling, some through friendship and community, and others simply through the way they move through the world.

The teachers who have deeply influenced my work and way of seeing the world include Emma Restall Orr, Mirabai Starr, Rumi, Rabia, Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Jean Shinoda Bolen, Terry Real, Daniel Foor, Jane Hardwicke Collings, Toko-pa Turner, Vicki Noble, Adrienne maree brown, Esther Perel, Alain de Botton, Brené Brown, Cedar Barstow, Sophie Strand, Bell hooks, Nedra Glover Tawwab, Robert Augustus Masters, Parker J. Palmer, Tyson Yunkaporta, and many others whose work has shaped both my personal healing and the way I support others.

I continue to learn deeply from the people I work with every day — from clients, from community, from my children, from my husband, and from the ongoing experience of being human on this magnificent earth that we get to call home.